If you are going through a divorce that involves children, their welfare is generally your primary concern. Unfortunately, however, some divorcing parents lose sight of this important goal and engage in a tremendous stressor that’s known as parental alienation. This amounts to the other parent trying to guide your children’s love, affection, and loyalty away from you in a misguided attempt to win their love. Such actions ultimately hurt everyone involved. If your divorcing spouse is engaging in what you believe is parental alienation, consult with an experienced Murfreesboro family attorney today.
Parental Alienation Amounts to Manipulation
Except in the most extreme situations, children fare best when they have a loving relationship with both parents – and spend quality time with both. If your divorcing spouse is engaging in parental alienation, he or she is attempting to manipulate your shared children into wanting to spend less time with you and attempting to undermine your ongoing loving relationship.
Signs of Parental Alienation
Every parental relationship is different, and parental alienation can take any number of forms, but there are several signs that often indicative of alienation, including:
- Talking about you disparagingly to the children, which can include lies, falsehoods, misinterpretations, and untruths that are aimed at making you look bad in their eyes
- Encouraging your children to feel guilty for the time they spend with you
- Making false claims of abuse against you to the children
- Failing to comply with the parenting plan as it’s laid out by the court and not allowing the children to comply
While your children’s other parent may find some temporary benefit in alienating your children’s affections, he or she is not only hurting you and your relationship with the children but is also harming your children – and should be stopped.
Court Decisions Related to Child Custody
When the courts turn to questions related to child custody, they always put the children’s best interests front and center. As such, the following specific factors are likely to come into play in cases involving parental alienation:
- Each parent’s ability and willingness to facilitate a healthy relationship between the children and each other
- The status of the children’s relationships with each parent’s family members
- The status and healthiness of the children’s relationships with anyone who lives with or frequents the home of each parent.
In other words, the court seeks to ensure that each parent provides ample opportunities for the children to foster healthy relationships with others, including the other parent. If your spouse is participating in alienating practices, it can substantively affect his or her child custody arrangement as mandated by the court.
Child Custody Concerns? Consult with a Murfreesboro Family Law Attorney
The effects of parental alienation are serious, and the courts take parental alienation seriously. The dedicated family law attorneys at Dotson & Taylor in Murfreesboro have extensive experience helping clients like you obtain child custody arrangements that accurately reflect the situation at hand and that protect your ongoing healthy relationship with your children. We’re committed to helping you, so please don’t hesitate to contact us online or call us at (615) 890-1982 today.